Radical Acceptance

GROUP EXPECTATIONS: 

  • You are expected to attend consistently and to participate in a constructive manner.
  • Group runs 9:00 AM through 12:00PM, there are two 10 minute breaks.
  • Maintain Confidentiality. It is essential that everything said in group therapy is kept private by all group members and leaders. 
  • Be Respectful to the other Group Members.  Listen attentively, refrain from disruptive behavior, and tolerate differences in personal opinion and opposing value systems. 
  • No Cellphone Use.

Personal Affirmation. I AM…
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What goal are you focused on?
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How can you make this a SMART Goal?
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What has played out to date?
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The Serenity Prayer

For many, the first verse of the Serenity Prayer serves as a daily touchstone, reminding us that to achieve serenity, we must approach each moment with wisdom and courage. The Serenity Prayer accurately expresses a central problem of addiction and prescribes a timeless solution. 

The prayer’s message about acceptance echoes insights from Bill W., cofounder of AA. In the book Alcoholics Anonymous, Bill described the core trait of alcoholics as self-centeredness—something he called "self-will run riot." He further described the alcoholic as "an actor who wants to run the whole show; is forever trying to arrange the lights, the ballet, the scenery and the rest of the players in his own way." Bill's solution: "First of all, we had to quit playing God." 

What blocks some alcoholics and addicts from achieving serenity is their intense desire to achieve a sense of absolute control—one that is simply not possible for human beings. This need for control has two aspects. First is an attempt to control the behavior of others, a strategy that addicts cling to despite its repeated failure. Second is the attempt to control feelings by medicating them with mood-altering chemicals. This strategy, too, is doomed to failure. 

An alcoholic’s quest for absolute control can lead to misery, which may contribute to substance abuse problems. Ironically, the need to control may also be a response to the unmanageability caused by their out-of-control use of drugs. And the vicious cycle continues until the addict accepts that there will always be external circumstances that we cannot change. The prayer instead points us to examine our inner life: We cannot directly control our feelings. However, we can influence our feelings through what we can control—our thinking and our actions. By focusing on those two factors, we can attain the final quality promised by the Serenity Prayer: courage. 

The Serenity Prayer is a wide door, one that's open to people of all faiths and backgrounds. It speaks wisdom to addicts and non-addicts alike. People who live this prayer discover how to strike a dynamic balance between acceptance and change. This gift is precious, and it's one that we can enjoy for a lifetime of serenity. 

God grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change, 
Courage to change the things I can, and Wisdom to know the difference. 

RADICAL ACCEPTANCE OF A DISTRESSING SITUATION

What does Radical Acceptance mean to you?
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How can Radical Acceptance impact your recovery?
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RADICAL ACCEPTANCE OF A DISTRESSING SITUATION - use this worksheet to reflect on a past distressing situation or to help you radically accept the reality of a current distressing event. Answer the following questions to help you view the distressing situation in a different way.

What happened in the upsetting situation/event?
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What part of this situation do you have control over?
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What part of this situation do you NOT have control over? 
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How did you respond/react to this situation?
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How did your own response make you feel?
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